GENDER DIVIDE

Intro: That punch-in-the-gut feeling of being cut off or ignored is something we’ve all experienced – and women suffer it more than men

RESEARCH across cultures shows that men dominate conversations, interrupt more, and have their suggestions taken more seriously by others – even by women. Assertiveness by a woman in a male-dominated workplace is more likely to be viewed as “bossy” and “abrasive”; conversely, men who act identically are more likely to be termed “decisive” and “assertive”.

Many business gurus have said that women’s views are unfairly sidelined because their speech is too “feminine” – punctuated with phrases that are termed “softeners”, such as “sort of”, “just wanted to…”, and “I’m sorry but…”. They say these make the speaker sound hesitant and indecisive to others. Objective research, however, shows that this theory is mostly hot air. Men use this kind of speech just as much as women.

Research does shows just how unbalanced the divide can be. For example, in a mixed-sex discussion group, women tend to get equal airtime only when the group has a ratio of at least four women for every man in the group.

So why are men such verbal bulldozers in the workplace? Male dominance at work has less to do with language and biological authority, and more to do with entrenched, global views of men having authority and taking command, while women are seen as more passive and family-focused. This work divide started around 10,000 years ago, when humans began farming in settlements, and whether we like it or not, these roles have seeped into the world’s psyche: patients feel more assured when their surgeon is a man and air passengers say they are more relaxed when the pilot’s voice they hear has a baritone rather than a soprano pitch.

Despite this, research also shows that the most effective teams are mixed, and that strong female role models (especially in positions of leadership) help to shatter stereotypes. We all have our part to play by being aware of this traditional norm and by striving to find and work with others who see the world differently to us.

Psychology of the Gender Divide

Unconscious prejudices are slow to uproot in societies. Humans are tribal; our unspoken social rules have been key in knitting together fragile communities over tens of thousands of years. Everyone conforms, and everyone is expected to conform. If we humans had not developed social norms then we would have co-operated only haphazardly and not been able to form such stable societies.

Even though the world has been inching towards a more gender-balanced society, primal psychology still remains powerfully at play. Anyone who bucks the trend by acting differently to what has gone before risks a social backlash for defying the expectations of others.

We also suffer “confirmation bias”, valuing those men and women who conform to stereotypes, and dismissing those who don’t as being unusual.

Even when our collective ideals shift, there is still a time lag before it affects how individuals actually live and work. Nevertheless, the choices we make today will have an impact on the accepted rules in our tribe. Each can be one small step in moving towards the world we want to live in tomorrow.