Arts, Education, Literature, Psychology

(Psychology journal) Theme For The Month: ‘Successful Relationships’

DIARY & JOURNAL: FEBRUARY 2019

Quotation For The Month

“The most important single ingredient to the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.” – The words of Theodore Roosevelt (1858–1919)

Mapping For The Month

. The purpose of relationships

. Survival – Support – Synergy – Success

. The progress of relationships

. Dependence – Independence – Interdependence

. The principles of relationships

. Mutual recognition – Mutual respect – Mutual responsibility

. The perfecting of your relationships

. Remember important information – Open lines of communication – Assert yourself – Develop sensitivity

A Meditation For The Month

“To laugh often and love much, to win the respect of intelligent persons and the affection of children; to earn the approbation of honest critics and to endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to give one’s self; to leave the world a bit better …to have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.”

“This is to have succeeded.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882)

A Promise

“For the Holy Spirit, God’s gift, does not want you to be afraid of people, but to be wise and strong, and to love them and enjoy being with them.”

St Paul 2 Timothy 1:7 – Living Bible

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Arts, Psychology, Science

Talking to Self is linked to Brain’s Intelligence

BEHAVIOURAL SCIENCE

Self Talk

This internal dialogue, sometimes referred to as personal commentary, frames our reactions to life and its circumstances. One of the ways to recognise, promote, and sustain optimism, hope, and joy is to intentionally fill our thoughts with positive self-talk.

We all talk to ourselves, whether it’s aloud or silent inner talk. Although thinking out loud makes us look insane, science suggests it’s actually a sign of intelligence, not mental illness. Psychologists at Bangor University in the UK have found external monologues boost brain power to improve our focus and achieve goals.

Scientific researchers at Bangor University say our inner talk serves to control ourselves by helping us organise our thoughts, plan actions, consolidate memory, and modulate emotions. This inner talk evolves itself to talking out loud to further reinforce our approach to achieving set goals.

One of the scientists commented: ‘Talking out loud can be an extension of this silent inner talk, caused when a certain motor command is triggered involuntarily.’

For example, as children, we learn by talking to ourselves because this is part of our developmental immaturity. Psychologist Jean Piaget dubbed this “egocentric speech”, and realised toddlers begin to control their actions as soon as they start developing language. A 2008 study conducted by George Mason University found 5-year-olds do better on motor tasks when they talk to themselves out loud, whether it’s spontaneously or when told to do so by an adult, compared to when they are silent. The researchers noted as children begin talking to themselves, their communication skills with the outside world improve.

In the study, published in Acta Psychologica, Mari-Beffa and Alexander Kirkhan conducted an experiment where they gave a total of 28 participants a set of written instructions, and asked them to read them either silently or out loud. The researchers observed talking out loud actually improved the participants’ control over a task compared to what is achieved by inner speech. They believe much of this benefit comes from simply hearing oneself.

An auditory command seems to better control behaviour than written ones. Even if we talk to ourselves during challenging tasks, our performance tends to improve when we do it out loud, rather than silently.

“The stereotype of the mad scientist talking to themselves, lost in their own inner world, might reflect the reality of a genius who uses all the means at their disposal to increase their brain power,” wrote Mari-Beffa.

Similarly, previous research has shown talking to ourselves makes our brain work more efficiently. In a 2011 study, researchers gave 20 people the name of an object, (i.e., a loaf of bread or an apple), to find in the supermarket both in silence and then aloud as they looked for it in the store. The participants found the object with more ease when they spoke to themselves while searching, because thinking out loud helped spark memory. In other words, speaking facilitated search, meaning there was a strong association between the name and the visual target.

These studies suggest talking to ourselves is not only a way to control our behaviour, but it’s also something that we prefer to do by default. It helps us organise our thoughts. Psychologist Linda Sapadin believes talking to ourselves helps us validate important, difficult decisions. It clarifies our thoughts to determine what’s important and solidify any decisions we’re contemplating. This is often the way we’re advised to “talk it out” when we are faced with a problem.

This is why we often see sports elites like tennis player Serena Williams talking to herself during competitions to stay focused and achieve her goals. Perhaps adapting an athlete’s state of mind by talking out loud can act as our own motivational pep talk to improve our focus. Initially, talking to ourselves may seem like madness, but science argues it’s the habit of a genius.

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Arts, Psychology, Science

A study finds those who regularly read books are kinder and more emphatic

EFFECTS OF READING

Benefits of reading: Having your nose in a book might seem a little anti-social at times – but reading could actually make you a kinder, more empathetic person, a study has found.

Being regularly engaged and engulfed in books might seem a little anti-social at times, but research has revealed that reading could actually make you a kinder and more empathetic person.

Readers were more likely to act in a socially acceptable manner while those who preferred watching television came across as less friendly and less understanding of others’ views, researchers said.

The 123 participants in the study were quizzed on their preferences for books, TV and plays at Kingston University, London.

They were then tested on interpersonal skills, such as how much they considered people’s feelings and whether they acted to help others.

Researchers told the British Psychological Society conference in Brighton that fiction fans showed more positive social behaviour.

Readers of drama and romance novels were also empathic, while lovers of experimental books showed the ability to see things from different perspectives.

Comedy fans scored the highest for relating to others.

The study suggested reading allows people to see different points of view, enabling them to understand others better.

The researchers added: ‘Exposure to fiction relates to a range of empathetic abilities.

‘Engaging with fictional prose and comedy in particular could be key to enhancing people’s empathetic abilities.’

However, the authors warned the study did not prove cause-and-effect.

So it could be that reading causes positive behaviour, or it could be that thoughtful, well-mannered people are more likely to prefer reading.

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